didn’t see that one coming.

Posted on: Monday, January 20, 2014

Ann-Marie Loves

I found out I was pregnant the day before my birthday. Even though all I really wanted was a couple of margaritas to ring in my 27th year, I got a positive pregnancy test instead.

I was definitely taken aback. How did this happen so fast?? I had always assumed that we would have the luxury of a few months before any babies came onto the scene. WRONG. And here’s the thing: I know I am lucky. Incredibly lucky. I realize that now and I feel so grateful that we didn’t have to play the waiting game that so many people around us play every single month. But in that moment (and the next few weeks that followed), I was in complete and utter denial. No effing way was this happening. We’re too young to have kids! How in the world would we pay for another college education when we hadn’t even paid off our own loans yet? We don’t even own a house! Or a dog! My thoughts were an endless loop of holyshitholyshitholyshit. 

But deep down, I secretly knew we would be just fine. Even though we had only been married for thirty seconds, our relationship has been building and strengthening for over nine years. We had had several discussions prior to getting married about wanting to start a family right away and obviously we knew what we were setting ourselves up for. I just had no clue that “right away” would mean “on our honeymoon.”

As for John’s reaction? He was THRILLED. Beyond thrilled, even. He has been excited since day one. And thank goodness for that. He helped to balance out my skepticism and uneasiness about the situation. Whenever I would get bogged down in the logistics of actually caring for a baby, he reminded me of all the fun things to come. Whenever I felt nauseas and wondered why the heck I did this to myself, he would bring me a heating pad and let me have the whole couch to myself. Whenever I snapped at him for no good reason (HORMONES), he took it in stride. The kid’s a saint. Let’s just hope our baby gets his patience and kindness ;)

And for the record, I am ELATED to be having a baby. Beyond elated. It took me a minute, but I came around and I’m not looking back.

P.S. Thank you SO MUCH for all of your well wishes! They mean the world to us! xo

  • Anna

    OMG, congratulations!!!!!

  • Jessica Rodarte

    I know that feeling. I got pregnant 30 seconds after getting married, too. Nobody is ever truly ready for a kid. Wherever and whenever- what matters is the love he or she is born into.
    Congratulations again!

  • kimberlee

    you are hilarious!! i totally know that feeling and can relate to all the mind juggling thoughts that come with a surprise babe alert! thank goodness for hubbies that are super stoked from the start! couldn’t be happier for you two!

  • Katherine

    Congrats to you both! I definitely know what you are feeling! Same thing happened to us, it’s the scariest feeling in the world! I’d love to tell you that feeling goes away but it really doesn’t! You’re constantly worried and feel like your unprepared, but trust me, it’s so worth! My advice (and I hated getting advice from people!) don’t let what others say to you get you worried or scared, just do what feels right for you!! Motherhood is the best!

  • Patty Bonomo

    I just got chills.,,,,,,,,,,,again! I figured you simply planned all of this, being that you two have been together for so long and it is a nice age to begin a family! You sure fooled me! Funny how we have little control over things, huh? Amazing how all the ‘what ifs’ end up being silenced by our inner joy! Well honey, you are about to enter the BEST time of your life! Thought you knew love before? Just wait. A love you will only truly know , by becoming a mother! I love this verse in the bible and it’s wisdom.
    Be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead!
    I Peter 1:6
    It is calming, isn’t it? Like your mother always said…”It will all work out!” And it will and you’ll wonder if you could have ever planned it more perfectly! So excited for you and you better move back to Simi so we can watch and hold and love this baby as he grows!! xoxo

  • Jessica

    This post did make me giggle – especially the “We’re too young to have kids!” bit. At what age did you want to have them? I got pregnant the first month too, at my 22nd birthday. I’m now 27 with a 4.5 year old, and I certainly don’t feel young!
    I’m so glad your husband was so excited – mine was happy, but there was no visible excitement (and I so wished there was!).
    All the best for your future together, as a family :-)

    • Ann-Marie Morris

      Haha! I know! I’m totally old enough to pop out a kid…I was in such a panicked head space at the time, everything felt SO stressful But now I’m realizing that 27 is a great age to start a family and begin this next chapter. And yes, I am so grateful for my husband’s enthusiasm. I know that’s not very common ;)

  • Quyen

    Congrats! What an exciting time!

  • Vanessa

    Congratulations! A baby is such a gift. Truly. I just had my first in July and I’m not gonna lie – there are days when I want to tear my hair out from lack of sleep or from him shouting, but when your baby smiles at you it makes it all worth it. To see yourself outside of yourself is an amazing experience. To see another person growing and learning is the best. Enjoy it!

  • Aileen

    Congrats again to you both! You are SO lucky! We got married in 2011 and started trying (by trying i mean not trying not to ha) shortly after and nothin’ so far. The waiting game sucks, but I truly believe whatever is meant to happen will happen. Of course we’re all excited to see you both transition into parenthood. How fun!

    • Ann-Marie Morris

      Thank you Aileen! I know we are incredibly lucky and I’m not taking that for granted at all! I am keeping my fingers crossed that 2014 will be a lucky year for you and your husband as well! xo

  • Sammy

    so excited for you. congrats! it is going to be so fun to see what you do with a baby room!

  • Kellie Winnell

    Congratulations again! I can sort of relate as we had two girls and then we got engaged, [did everything all over the place, had a girl at a young age, bought a house, had another girl, got engaged, had another little girl and then got married]. We knew we wanted to try again, but I told hubby that I wanted to wait till after the wedding. But alas life had other plans and I bought a wedding dress without actually trying it on. Had our youngest in June and married in December. I wouldn’t change it for the world, but I was a bit shocked at start, where as hubby was thrilled to bits.

    • Ann-Marie Morris

      I love that, Kellie! I truly do not believe there is a “proper order” to these things, so I completely understand where you are coming from. I adore your story and hope that I end up with three girls too! ;) xo

  • Laura

    Thank you for posting this. I go back and forth on “when is too young/when is too old/but we have loans/do we care if we have loans/but i want a really nice car someday…” and your honesty here on timing was what I needed to read. Also, so often we never hear of the “it took me a minute to get excited” stories, so thanks for putting yours out there. I’m excited for you two!

    • Ann-Marie Morris

      Thank you! I’ve come to the realization that there will never be a “perfect” time. Even though we didn’t plan for this (and I lost a ton of sleep stressing about how we could pull it off!), I really feel like everything will work out. It always does. Best of luck to you! xo

  • Katie Pritchard

    Your honestly is refreshing! I know for a fact I would have responded the same way as you – denial at first. I can only imagine how scary that feeling is. So don’t let anyone make you feel bad about the way you feel. Everyone has their idea of the best age to have kids. Some want them young, some want them as soon as they are married (parents usually root for this one…mine atleast! ugh) and some older. I know you’ll take this in stride and your baby will be the most styled kid around. Huge hugs to John for being so awesome about this and encouraging you. The best husbands know our needs!

    • Ann-Marie Morris

      Thank you Katie! Yes, it was quite a shock and maybe I didn’t handle it as well as I should have. Thankfully, I was able to see the light pretty quickly and now I’m looking forward to this next chapter! I appreciate your support! We are going to need lots of photos in our near future :) xo

  • Betty

    Congratulations Ann-Marie, I’ve enjoyed following your creative and personal journey and wish you both or perhaps the three of you magic times ahead. I remember thinking I had no time for anything with my first and then I had a second and realised how much time I actually had. It’s a whirlwind but the very best kind. x

  • Ariana Reed

    I think this is going to be awesome for the two of you. A beautiful new chapter to share with a beautiful baby soul! Congratulations to the both of you!!

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